Sometimes I hear comments or get impressions from some parents or players that the Gamers program is “too hard” — that the expectations are too high, the time commitment too much, or the requirements too demanding. The statements sound something like this:
“_____ just wants to have fun playing baseball, the Gamers practice too much”
“I just want to play with my friends, who are playing legion ball”
“______ just wants more time to do other things, like hang out with friends, and do the things that teenage boys do”
“XYZ program doesn’t practice as much, and wins just as many games”
” ______ wants to play other sports, and it is just too hard to play Gamers baseball and other sports”
“We love everything about the Gamers program, but we have other kids and just don’t have the time to get _______ to the practices”
“______ just wants to have fun and play more relaxed baseball for a year, then we’ll come back to the Gamers…”
“I just can’t get _______ to games 90 minutes beforehand and then sit around waiting for the game to start”
There is a lot commonality in all these statements.
First, the word “just” comes up time after time. This can sometimes be an honest word. For example, when a player has made a tradeoff between a lower priority thing (baseball) and a higher priority thing (another sport?), and baseball is “just” not that important to him any more.
Or, sometimes “just” can be a very dangerous word that establishes artificial limits on effort and commitment, like “Little Johnny just doesn’t want to work that hard”.
Very few people in life are successful by “just” doing something. Success requires extraordinary effort, commitment and passion. The word “just” does not fit with success.
Not enough people are willing to be honest with kids and parents about this point. “Just” and “success” do not fit. By “just” doing something, you are choosing to fail. You are either committed, or you are not. This is true in baseball and in life.
We have dozens of players and families who successfully manage to fit Gamers baseball around incredibly demanding family, academic and other sport schedules. The lessons of commitment, of not settling for “just” tradeoffs, pay enormous dividends in all aspects of life.
The other commonality in the statements above is the seemingly opposite relationship between “fun” and “hard work”. This is also very dangerous.
Being mediocre in anything, especially baseball, is not “fun”. Sometimes, the teenage boy definition of “fun” is warped and looks a lot like laziness. A lot of bad things can happen when teenage boys pursue this brand of “fun”. Pursuit of this “fun” is a dead end path.
To accept mediocrity as a tradeoff for superficial teenager “fun” is sad, immature and destructive. Young men should not be allowed to make this mistake. It is not “fun” to be irresponsible, lazy and disrespectful. It might feel good for a while, but it is not “fun”.
But, too many parents, teachers and coaches are not willing to step in to the provide leadership and mentoring to help boys understand a simple concept:
There is a different kind of “fun”, one that is sustainable, rewarding and does not come at others’ expense. This is a true “fun”, that comes from working hard, with others, towards a common goal.
The dialogue above is why the Gamers program is structured the way that it is. Our program was well thought out, not a random collection of ideas and buzzwords. It was never meant to be “just” baseball. It was never meant for players that have “fun” being mediocre.
Over the years, we have made some adjustments and changes to the program and will continue to do so. And, we make some mistakes, like all passionate, hard working people do.
But, our principles will not change. Our program is built on the foundation that success is the direct result of passion, effort and teamwork. This is true in baseball, and it is true in life. The Gamers program is not easy, because success is never easy.
Our program is designed for players who want to be exceptional and learn what it takes to be exceptional. It is not easy to be exceptional — average people are not exceptional. And, “just” being a talented baseball player or athlete is not good enough. It does not make you exceptional.
A youth sports program that has the courage to follow and teach these principles can have a profound impact on young men, on the field and off.
But, it takes courage and conviction to follow these principle — anything else is “just” a compromise.